It has finally hit me. My daughter is going into her sophomore year of high school. I’m thinking ahead and quite a few things hit me!
- She will have her license this time next year
- We will be doing college tours in two years
- She will graduate in less than three years.
- She will be old enough to vote in the next election in four years
Once I let all that sink it, I realized one thing. I’m getting old! Nah… I mean I am, but, I don’t feel it. I sure as heck don’t act it! So, it got me thinking. Once she’s done college in seven years. What the heck am I going to do with my life? I mean, the last eleven years since my divorce, I haven’t really give much thought to my empty nest years.
I can hear some of you now. Oh, just wait, she’ll be back. You won’t be able to get rid of her that easily! I assure you, I can! I don’t mean I’m going to push her out the door and call it a day. I mean, that kid is ready to move out on her own. She’d do it today if she could. She tells me that plenty of times, lol. She plans to move to New York for a couple of years and then wants to move out to California. She wants to be a photographer and live in West Hollywood, or Los Angeles. She’s been doing her research on rents and overall cost of living out there. She’s preparing herself.
So, with my daughter ready to move out. Just hasn’t packed her stuff up yet, where does that leave me? The mom who has devoted the last fifteen years to raising this child spawn of mine.
The answer to that is…. I HAVE NO IDEA…
I know what I want to do. I just have to figure out how to implement it. Get away from the guilt of, “Well, my family is here. I should stay.” And get to the mindset of, “This is my life and I need to do what makes me happy.” Like my daughter, I think my happiness is going to lie somewhere other than where I am now. Professionally and personally, I’m not quite where I want to be. I understand the difference between want and need. I’m at the stage in my life that I feel I deserve the WANT.
So, locations that I’m thinking of, are:
The first three are because I have friends in those locations. At least if I choose to move, I won’t be alone. I’ll have friends there and I can be as social as I like to be.
The next two? I like the idea of living a slower paced lifestyle. I want to live in a community that can give me that kind of lifestyle. Where everyone knows everyone else. I wouldn’t be friendless for long :). And a healthier lifestyle. I feel that these locations have plenty of things to do outside that would motivate me to get outside more. And if not? The views alone could do that 🙂 Tennessee, I have family down there from my dad’s side that I would love to meet and get to know.
I’ve narrowed it down to living in those six states. I just have to figure out which one suits me better! So, I’m thinking it’s going to be research time and visiting time to see which area I fall in love with :).
Who else here has made decisions based on going into your Empty Nest years? Heck, who here has moved on to a new location because they found something better? Moved their life and their kids lives with them? I want to know who my wandering kindred spirits are!